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Wednesday, May 31, 2017

How to Transform Conflict Part 4: Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

Conflict happens. Even in the best relationships, you’re going to disagree from time to time, but how you respond to conflict determines whether the discourse becomes hurtful or helpful.

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Wednesday, May 24, 2017

How To Transform Conflict Part 3: Developing Creative Solutions

During the process of divorce you may hit a roadblock where you and your ex can’t even agree to disagree. You’re stuck. The more you both dig in, each insisting on your point of view, the more difficult it becomes to find a solution.

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Wednesday, May 17, 2017

How To Transform Conflict Part 2: Get Curious, Not Furious

Conflict begins with fear. When you feel threatened, you pick a side — a desire, belief, objective, tangible goal or attainment — that opposes the desires, beliefs or objectives of another person or group. It’s human nature. But the real problems begin when you become fixed in your way of thinking about the situation. You may even begin to believe that dire consequences will occur if you don’t get your way.
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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

How To Transform Conflict Part 1: Imagine the Possibilities

As a global peace negotiator, John Paul Lederach uses four principles that bring about what he calls “conflict transformation”.
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Wednesday, May 3, 2017

You Can Become an Agent for Peace: Transforming Conflict Within Yourself and Others Introduction to a Four-Part Series on Creating More Peaceful Relationships

When someone harms us, human instinct often compels us to retaliate. But when we live with an “eye for an eye” mentality, we often end up blinded by our own aggression. How can we resolve our differences more peacefully? And how do we make peace with our own sense of being wronged?

Answers to these questions come from American Professor of International Peacebuilding at the University of Notre Dame, John Paul Lederach, who has widely written on the nature of conflict, its resolution and mediation. He is involved in conciliation work in Colombia, the Philippines, Nepal and Tajikistan, as well as countries in East and West Africa. He helped design and conducted training programs in 25 countries across five continents, and has received numerous awards for his work, including the 2006 Martin Luther King Order of Peace Medal.
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Wednesday, April 26, 2017

For Better or Worse?

Studies show your personal wellness is directly linked to the health of your marriage

Why are people so drawn to saying I do? All romance aside, there may be practical reasons why humans commit to relationships. Hundreds of studies have been conducted on the benefits — and the detriments — of marriage. Recent studies concur that while happy marriages have a big impact on overall wellbeing and longevity, toxic relationships can take a big toll on your health.

The most recent of these reports comes from Harvard University where the latest findings in a longevity study revealed that good, close relationships predicted both happiness and healthiness. The study spanned 75 years and collected data from more than 700 men from a cross-section of socio-economic and educational backgrounds.
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Wednesday, April 19, 2017

How to Divorce Like a Celebrity

Five lessons to consider from high-profile splits

Celebrities seem to marry and divorce like the rest of us change our oil. Some break ups are messy. Others are neat and tidy. Regardless of the details, the churn of Hollywood romance keeps us enthralled — and keeps the tabloids in business. Why do celebrity splits fascinate us? Maybe we feel a little better about our own not-so-perfect lives knowing that no matter how successful, famous, attractive and wealthy you are, you can experience failed relationships.
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Friday, April 7, 2017

Worth A Thousand Words

A family photo goes viral as it recasts divorce stereotypes

There’s a photo on Facebook that’s becoming famous. It depicts a beautiful Mom and a handsome Dad and a cute little boy. They sit close together, grinning from ear to ear, the boy proudly wedged between them. The photo of Victoria Baldwin, Adam Dyson and their son Bruce looks just like a million other family portraits. But, actually, there’s something very unique about this picture.
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Friday, March 31, 2017

Twelve Steps to a Happier Life

Al-Anon family support groups provide a way to overcome anxiety. Could they help you?

Among the many issues families face, addiction is one of the most difficult. An estimated 47% of the adult U.S. population suffers from at least one addiction, according to a 2011 study published in the Journal of Evaluations & the Health Professions.

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Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Ending or Beginning?

Starting over in the second half of life often takes a leap of faith and a shift in perspective.

The kids are grown. The nest is empty. Careers are winding down. And, for a growing number of couples at this major crossroads in life, marriage also comes into question. A 2016 report by the National Center for Family & Marriage Research revealed that between 1990 and 2014 the divorce rate doubled among adults over the age of 50. For those over the age of 65, divorces tripled. Making major changes in mid-life may be intimidating, but it can also become an opportunity for starting anew.

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Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Who Gets the... Pets?

Coming to terms with custody of family pets

You want the wedding china; he wants the oriental rug. No problem. But if you’re a pet-owning couple who’s divorcing, sorting out custody of your beloved pets can become a major point of contention. Fortunately, divorce law is picking up speed when in comes to rulings on who gets Fido and Fluffy.

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