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Monday, October 15, 2018

For Love and Money: Five Ways Financial Habits May Contribute to Your Divorce

For more than one-third of couples who split, attitudes about money are at the root of their discontent, according to a survey conducted by SunTrust Bank. Other factors may compound the problem, but the distinct differences in the way you and your spouse think about and handle money are often the underlying reason for a marriage’s problems.


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Monday, October 8, 2018

How “Good” Is Your Divorce?

Take this quiz and measure your ex-success

Divorce legally severs ties, but often (especially when there are children) your relationship with your ex continues on well after the ink has dried on your divorce papers. Just because you had a terrible marriage, doesn’t mean you can’t have a good divorce. In fact, with the right perspective, divorce can be a new beginning for how you relate to the person to whom you were previously married.

Mediator Sam Margulies, Ph.D. and author of Man’s Guide to a Civilized Divorce: How to Divorce with Grace, a Little Class and a Lot of Common Sense, helps couples revision their post-divorce relationships. “Because divorce is generally regarded as regrettable and socially undesirable, we tend to think of all divorce as bad and destructive,” he writes in an article for Psychology Today. “Just as there is bad divorce characterized by mutual self defeat, there is also successful divorce in which a couple has successfully negotiated a post-divorce arrangement that leaves both partners as well a s their children able to adapt to their new lives.”

Margulies contends there are seven core areas to work on when your goal is “good” divorce. How does your split stack up? Take this quiz and find out.

1. How much emotional closure do you and your ex really have?


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Monday, October 1, 2018

Time for a Divorce Tune-Up?

An annual check-in with your attorney may give you peace of mind

Your divorce is final, and you’re ready to move onto your new life. But don’t delete your family law attorney’s contact information from your phone just yet.


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Monday, September 10, 2018

Could the “Nest” be Best?: Another Take on Shared Custody

Some divorcing parents are taking a tip from the robins and the sparrows. Rather than shuttling their kiddos from Mom’s house to Dad’s, they are allowing the kids to remain in the family home while they “fly” in and out. This out-of-the-box option is aptly named “bird nesting.”


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Tuesday, September 4, 2018

School Daze: Planning Ahead Can Help Unify Your Divided Home

Your kids may have new clothes, sneakers, book bags, pencils and pens, but as they head back to the classroom, do they have everything they need to succeed? If you’re divorced or divorcing and have shared custody, that school list may extend beyond supplies to some practice strategies.

Heather Locus, certified divorce finance advisor and author of The Next Chapter – A Practical Roadmap for Successfully Navigating Through, and Beyond, Divorce, suggests using this time to “reset expectations, goals and boundaries.”  The new school year can be the perfect time to renew your shared commitment to your children and bridge any previous communication gaps, says Locus in a recent article for Forbes magazine.


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Monday, August 27, 2018

Could Your College Degree Contribute to Your Divorce?

Experts reveal that student loan debt may cause splits

Although there are many reasons why couples divorce, money is one of the common stressors that cause problems in relationships. Debt is a major contributor to that stress. For younger couples, that debt stress frequently comes from one source in particular: Student loans. On average, college grads matriculate with a diploma and $37,000 in loan debt.


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Monday, August 20, 2018

New Study: Divorced Single Women May Not be Impacted at Retirement Time

When it comes to the financial aspects of divorce, parting ways and splitting assets often means a change in lifestyle. Divorce can also have long-reaching implications when it comes time for retirement. But a new study from the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College (CRR) indicates that divorcees who remain single may not feel the sting.


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Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Stop the Break-up Yo Yo: Three Ways to Know if You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship Pattern


You love him. You love him not. You can’t live without her … but you can’t live with her either.

For a variety of reasons, many couples become stuck in what’s commonly known as a “yo yo” relationship. They split up and get back together again — until the next argument.
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Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Save the Date: Should the 2019 Tax Law Influence When You Divorce?


If you’re considering ending your marriage there may be incentive to follow through on those plans sooner rather than later. For men and women who will be paying alimony under terms of your divorce decree, timing could make a big difference to your bottom line.

For the past 77 years, alimony has been deductible for the spouse paying it, and considered taxable income for the receiving spouse at a lower tax rate. Beginning in 2019, the change that.

For couples who divorce after December 31, 2018, the alimony payer will no longer be able to deduct alimony payments from his or her taxable income, and the alimony recipient will no longer claim payments as income.
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Monday, July 23, 2018

Can You Have A Good Divorce? Two Strategies for a Positive Approach

If the phrase “good divorce” seems a contradiction in terms, think again. Yes, it’s easy to become enmeshed in a competitive mentality, or overwhelmed with feelings of betrayal and resentment, but it doesn’t have to be that way. There is a healthy approach to getting through the often challenging uncoupling process. Take a cue from Heather  Locus,  a certified divorce financial analyst and author of The Next Chapter – A Practical Roadmap for Successfully Navigating Through, and Beyond, Divorce. In a recent article for forbes.com Locus outlines two essential strategies for transcending the ugliness of divorce.


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Monday, July 16, 2018

Don’t Let Divorce Overwhelm You: Four Ways to Find Relief

Divorce at any time in life is difficult. Splitting up comes with complications and anxieties. Even if you initiated the divorce and feel ending your marriage is “for the best” where everyone is concerned, starting over may be intimidating — or even downright scary. But you can learn a lot from those who have been there, done that, and come out on the other side of divorce.


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