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Monday, December 17, 2018

What to Buy Your The Ex On Your List? Holiday Gifting Do’s & Don’ts

The holiday season is a time for giving. But sometimes divorce can leave you feeling like a Scrooge with plenty of “ba-hum-bug” to go around. If glad tidings of peace, love and joy move you to be generous towards your ex, there’s no reason not to include him or her on your gift list. Just keep in mind these gifting do’s and don’ts from The Good Men Project blogger Sinta Ebersohn:


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Tuesday, December 11, 2018

No Holiday from Your Ex-In-Laws? Four Strategies for Happier Holidays

Your divorce is final. You’re moving on with your lives. Your kids have adjusted to the new routine. But divorce doesn’t just involve your immediate family. Typically, there are family members on both sides of the split who may not come into consideration until ... the holidays roll around.

Not sure how to manage your ex-in-laws this holiday season? If they’ve always been Scrooges, chances are they haven’t come to terms with the Ghost of Christmas Past yet. People can and do change, but it may be more productive to accept that things will not be different this year. “Setting realistic expectations is the key to not getting frustrated or angry with your partner’s family. says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., relationship therapist and author. “It’s inevitable that there will be differences and disagreements, but don’t try to change them or assume that things will be different this year.”


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Monday, December 3, 2018

Create New Traditions and Reclaim the Holiday After Divorce


The first holiday seasons you spend as a divorced person can be difficult. Expectations steeped in decades of tradition may make you feel like you are the odd man (or woman) out. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Embracing the change that comes with divorce rather than mourning the loss can help you move forward in all aspects of your life and be grateful for what you have -- rather than regret what you don’t.

The holidays are the perfect a time to reclaim your independence and set new precedents.
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Tuesday, November 27, 2018

Gratitude Series Part 3: Seven Ways to Give Your Kids the Greatest Gift

During the holiday season, we often stop and count our blessings or give thanks for the good things in our lives. Especially in challenging times, a tradition of gratitude can sustain us through the difficulties. If you’ve been through divorce — or are going through one now — teaching gratitude practices to your children may be the last thing that comes to your mind.


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Tuesday, November 13, 2018

Gratitude Series Week 2: Better Off Now: Six Ways to be Grateful After Divorce

When you divorce, it’s often hard to see the good in anything. Even when you know it’s “for the best” in the long-run, losing your most intimate relationship shifts the ground under your feet. If your spouse is the one who initiated the split, you may have to rebuild you life — most likely at a time when you didn’t plan on rebuilding it. Even if you were the one who left, the reality of starting over may be a lot more difficult than you imagined — especially when there are children involved. It’s natural to feel stuck with a sense that your life will never improve. No matter the circumstances and no matter how sad, confused, angry or hurt you are right now, there will come a day when you may look at your divorce in a different light.


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Tuesday, November 6, 2018

November 2018 Gratitude Series - A Monthlong Practice of Thanksgiving


Week 1: The Gratitude Diet: How Five Minutes a Day Can Make You a Happier, Healthier  Person

Divorce can bring about a variety of negative emotions: anger, shame, guilt, resentment regret,  and fear. But there is one practice that can combat all these feelings and shift your perspective and attitudes: Gratitude. As simple as it sounds, generating feelings of thankfulness can (and does) have real and sustainable positive impact on your life.

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Tuesday, October 23, 2018

For the Children: The Nine Most Important Messages Your Kids Need to Hear

The big fear for most divorcing parents is, “What will it do to the children?” This fear often keeps couples together long after the marriage is over. It’s a natural instinct to want to protect children from harm. But no matter how spectacular your parenting skills, human psychology demonstrates that in the course of their emotional development, children will become disillusioned, even emotionally wounded. Famed psychologist Carl Jung called this “necessary suffering” and noted that it was integral to human maturation. Simply put: The child’s idea of how his or her life would play out and reality do not match up.


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Monday, October 8, 2018

How “Good” Is Your Divorce?

Take this quiz and measure your ex-success

Divorce legally severs ties, but often (especially when there are children) your relationship with your ex continues on well after the ink has dried on your divorce papers. Just because you had a terrible marriage, doesn’t mean you can’t have a good divorce. In fact, with the right perspective, divorce can be a new beginning for how you relate to the person to whom you were previously married.

Mediator Sam Margulies, Ph.D. and author of Man’s Guide to a Civilized Divorce: How to Divorce with Grace, a Little Class and a Lot of Common Sense, helps couples revision their post-divorce relationships. “Because divorce is generally regarded as regrettable and socially undesirable, we tend to think of all divorce as bad and destructive,” he writes in an article for Psychology Today. “Just as there is bad divorce characterized by mutual self defeat, there is also successful divorce in which a couple has successfully negotiated a post-divorce arrangement that leaves both partners as well a s their children able to adapt to their new lives.”

Margulies contends there are seven core areas to work on when your goal is “good” divorce. How does your split stack up? Take this quiz and find out.

1. How much emotional closure do you and your ex really have?


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Tuesday, September 4, 2018

School Daze: Planning Ahead Can Help Unify Your Divided Home

Your kids may have new clothes, sneakers, book bags, pencils and pens, but as they head back to the classroom, do they have everything they need to succeed? If you’re divorced or divorcing and have shared custody, that school list may extend beyond supplies to some practice strategies.

Heather Locus, certified divorce finance advisor and author of The Next Chapter – A Practical Roadmap for Successfully Navigating Through, and Beyond, Divorce, suggests using this time to “reset expectations, goals and boundaries.”  The new school year can be the perfect time to renew your shared commitment to your children and bridge any previous communication gaps, says Locus in a recent article for Forbes magazine.


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Monday, August 20, 2018

New Study: Divorced Single Women May Not be Impacted at Retirement Time

When it comes to the financial aspects of divorce, parting ways and splitting assets often means a change in lifestyle. Divorce can also have long-reaching implications when it comes time for retirement. But a new study from the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College (CRR) indicates that divorcees who remain single may not feel the sting.


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Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Stop the Break-up Yo Yo: Three Ways to Know if You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship Pattern


You love him. You love him not. You can’t live without her … but you can’t live with her either.

For a variety of reasons, many couples become stuck in what’s commonly known as a “yo yo” relationship. They split up and get back together again — until the next argument.
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