My Funny Valentine: A little humor can save the day

When you’re divorced (or going through the process), you’re bound to hit some difficult milestones. There’s the anniversary of your first date, the day he proposed, your wedding anniversary, etc. The calendar may be riddled with emotional landmines that you have to tip-toe around. Valentine’s Day is at the top of that list.

If the mere thought of your first post-break-up Valentine’s Day makes you feel like eating an entire box of chocolates, take heart. There are ways you can survive V-Day with aplomb. Meet your feelings head-on, plan ahead and create a smart strategy to avoid an emotional melt-down. (For some inspiration, read: Avoiding the Slings & Arrows of Valentine’s Day.)

Another approach? Embrace the Hallmark holiday with a sense of humor.

If you want a way to lighten up about the demise of your marriage, take a stroll through this virtual card aisle. You might find some creative inspiration for how to express your “appreciation” for your ex-Valentine. (NOTE: We do NOT recommend you send these card unless your ex shares your sense of humor!)

Nothing says it’s over like an “I hate you” card. Zazzle provides a smorgasbord of ironic and down-right irreverent divorce cards for any occasion. Many of these clever missives provide the perfect way to support or acknowledge a friend’s divorce. But there are a few zingers to share with ex’s too, such as this snarky twist on a classic: “Roses are red, violets are blue …”

Cafe Press is another source of devilish divorce cards. There are also clever cards to fit every relationship, such as the one that reads, “Best. Ex Wife. Ever.” Don’t see something that speaks to you? Get creative and design your own!

For a classier approach, Emily McDowell offers a tasteful acknowledgement of your split with a wish for a brighter future. And Etsy is another source for clever ways to acknowledging the end of a relationship. The crafty site also provides a lot of options for cards celebrating a new spin on the tradition, Pal-entines Day! Forget about romance and transform into a day to show your appreciation for friends and family.

If you have a friend or family member who’s going through a divorce, consider sending a Valentine to them. Whether the message is hilarious or sentimental, taking the time to let them know you love and support them can make all the difference during a difficult time.