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Monday, August 21, 2017

End of the Line for Divorce Shame

Reentry after a divorce can be a shock to the system as you learn to navigate life as a single person again. But one of the most difficult aspects of divorce can be an invisible, nagging interloper called “divorce shame”

“For the divorcing people, it is often not only sad, hurtful and scary, but the added element of shame can be debilitating,” writes therapist and authorRead more . . .

Monday, August 14, 2017

Divorced-Parent Etiquette: What To Do When Your Kid Says, “I Do”

When children are involved, many couples discover that divorce does not completely sever their relationship  — even after the kids are grown. Family events, such as birthdays, graduations and weddings, may give you cause to interact, or at least be under the same roof. Weddings, by nature, can be particularly emotionally charged events and may even stir up memories of your own failed endeavor. Fortunately, there are experts on this very topic to guide you gracefully down the aisle.

Here are three tips to keep in mind when you’re divorced, but your son or daughter is getting married:

  1. Break the ice.
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Monday, August 7, 2017

Lessons in Co-Parenting: Back-to-School Post-Divorce

As quickly as it began, summer is now drawing to a close. And with the end of summer, comes the beginning of school. For divorced or divorcing couples with children, this can bring on a host of new challenges as you wrangle schedules, expenses and activities.

And if you are newly divorced, the change of seasons may be the first time your kids feel the effects of Mommy and Daddy’s breakup.

Having back to school jitters? Here are four ways to help your kids get back to school:

  1. Maintain the Rituals.
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Wednesday, August 2, 2017

In Sickness and in Health: Can Insurance Coverage Outlast Your Vows?

You took a vow to remain united in sickness and in health, but lately that vow may be tested in a new way. For thousands of couples considering divorce, those promises may have greater meaning, depending on how Congress weighs in on our nation’s healthcare insurance. A recent article in Time magazine reported that some couples are actually delaying divorce proceedings until the outcome of the Affordable Care Act (ACA) is known.

Of course, this health insurance is not a new concern to divorcees.
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Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Is PESD* Influencing Your Divorce?

Acrimony is on the rise, but you can choose to diffuse discourse.

If you’re feeling a little more on edge lately, you’re not alone. A survey of  American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) released earlier this month found that 54 percent of attorneys have noticed an increase in contentious divorces.
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Thursday, July 13, 2017

Is Unfriending Your Ex a Good Idea?

Back in the good old days, when a couple broke up, they set about their individual lives. If they had kids together, they probably still interacted, but their personal lives were just that, personal. Sure, if you lived in the same town, you might run the risk of having awkward chance meetings. Worse case, you might find yourself on a date at the same restaurant where your ex and his new girlfriend were dining. Today, with

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Sunday, July 9, 2017

Time to Talk - Three Easy Steps for Sharing Your Divorce News

The “d-word”. Some people are reluctant to use the term — even when they are about to file for it. It’s understandable. Saying “divorce” out loud makes it real. And even for couples who have been moving towards the end of their marriage for a while, the finality of divorce can give them pause.
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Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Divorce and Money - Where to find help when making financial decisions

Let's face it, money — or the lack thereof — is one of life’s most frequent stressors. In a recent survey by the accounting firm PriceWaterhouse Cooper (PwC), more than half (52 percent) of respondents said they were stressed about finances, and 45 percent reported that their stress increased over the last 12 months.[1]

When you're going through divorce, financial stress can be greatly compounded, especially for couples that found it difficult to resolve financial differences during their marriage. For individuals who weren't previously involved with the household finances, taking charge of their financial wellbeing might mean establishing fiscal independence for the first time. But if you feel at a loss when in comes to budgeting, 401k rollovers, annuities and other money matters, there's no need to stress out.
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Friday, June 23, 2017

House of Cards - Now there’s a perfect greeting card for every ex

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day have come and gone. For divorced parents, these days of acknowledgement can be awkward. If you’re divorced from your child’s mom or dad, you might want to wish them well on “their” day, but  how? Hallmark greeting cards are filled with heart-felt sentiment, but their messages of love and appreciation are rarely appropriate for divorced parents. Enter X Cards.

In 2008 — six years after they divorced — Ken and Wanda Bass founded their unique greeting card company to fill a niche for divorcees and their family members.
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Wednesday, June 7, 2017

For the Children - New study shows how your divorce may have negative impact on kids

Often parents who are unhappy in their marriages hesitate to divorce for fear of the impact it will have on their kids. Indeed, there’s been a lot of research on the implications of divorce on the emotional welfare of children, but a new study by the University of Santiago de Compostela in Spain recently shed new light on exactly how divorce may be detrimental.


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Wednesday, May 31, 2017

How to Transform Conflict Part 4: Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

Conflict happens. Even in the best relationships, you’re going to disagree from time to time, but how you respond to conflict determines whether the discourse becomes hurtful or helpful.

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